A few weeks back I had finished the preaching time on campus and was sitting down surrounded by students asking questions.
This was in an area of the Bible belt so many of these students are raised in or around some time of at least nominal “Christian” background.
A female student fighting tears very sincerely and humbly asked me what I thought she needed to do about her situation.
I have talked to hundreds of homosexuals and I can tell when someone is being sincere, humble and honest and when they are trying to justify and defend their sin.
I believed she was the former not the latter and was totally sincere and transparent.
I was pleasantly surprised the students allowed me to have the short discussion with her without interfering.
She told me she was raised in a Christian environment but tried to deny she was a lesbian.
For some reason she seemed to believe denying this in her younger years was what she needed to do.
I explained to her for her to be delivered she must do these things:
1) She must be honest and transparent with God and herself and admit being a homosexual is a sin (Romans 1:26-28, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10).
2) She must admit and believe she is responsible for her sin because the sin of homosexuality like all sexual sin and all sin period is a heart issue (Mark 7:21-23, Matthew 5:27-30).
If God ordained marriage between a man and woman is natural and it is a sin for men to lust after women and women to lust after men then most certainly it is sinful for same sex to lust after one another (Romans 1:26-32).
3) She must admit that sin is a choice and she made the choice to give into and act upon the temptation to be a homosexual and attempt to justify it (1 John 3:4, 1 John 3:8, John 8:34, Romans 6:13, Romans 6:16).
4) She must admit that she deserves to go to hell for her sin of homosexuality and admit that God is totally justified in sending her to hell for her sin (Matthew 10:28, Proverbs 1:7, Proverbs 3:7-8, Proverbs 8:13, Proverbs 14:27, Proverbs 16:6).
This is the beginning of the fear of the Lord, which is the beginning of knowing God, which causes us to hate sin and depart from sin.
Without it there is no fear of God that will lead to repentance.
Repentance and being born again is a total change of heart, mind and life.
No forgiveness without repentance or forsaking of sin (Proverbs 28:13, Matthew 3:1-2, Matthew 4:17, Mark 1:1-4, Mark 1:15, Luke 13:3, 5, Luke 24:47, Acts 2:38, Acts 3:19).
5) She must admit and believe that Jesus Christ is able to deliver her and set her free from the power of that sin (Matthew 1:21, John 3:29, Acts 3:26, Galatians 1:4, Titus 2:14, 1 John 3:5).
6) She must admit and believe that Jesus came to set her free from the power of her sin as well as forgive her for the consequences of her sin (John 8:32, John 8:34, John 8:36, Romans 6:18, Romans 6:22, Romans 8:2).
7) She must believe that Jesus is able to forgive her sin and purify her heart from all her sin making her a new creature in Christ (Acts 15:9, Matthew 5:8, 2 Corinthians 5:17).
Being born again means you are no longer a slave to sin and no longer live in sin because you are a new creature in Christ (John 3:3-7, 1 John 3:5-10, 1 John 5:18).
She readily and humbly listened intently to everything I said and so did the surrounding students. I think it affected all of them or at least they could not offer any honest refutation.
A similar patter could be followed in dealing with any sin or sinner.